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What is the one thing that truly successful people have in common that others do not? It’s not that they were born with special abilities or talents that set them apart from others. The essential difference is that they know and utilize the power of their thoughts. The good news is that you can learn to do the same.
In order to know how to succeed in life, you must understand the great power you wield with your thoughts. Your potential for success is determined by your thoughts about yourself and your goals. When a person has negative thoughts such as the ones listed below, their energy is dissipated and their efforts to succeed are undermined by their thinking.
I fail at everything I try. No one believes that I can succeed, and they’re probably right. If I really try and then I fail, I won’t be able to recover.
Can you see how thoughts like these might lead to procrastination or thoughts of giving up? Can you see how they would seriously work against your efforts to succeed?
How to Succeed in Life: The Key Is To Change Your Thoughts
The first thing to do is to learn to recognize when you are having negative thoughts such as these. Most people, even those who feel generally confident, will have some latent negative beliefs that emerge when they reach for a new goal. We are so used to our habits of thinking, we are not even aware of them most of the time. That’s why it is important to develop a new habit of paying attention to your thoughts, particularly when you feel negative emotion.
This process will help you discover the negative beliefs that are undermining your success and then change them:
1. Write down your goal and say it out loud.
2. Now, listen for the negative feelings and thoughts that come up in response.
3. Write these negative thoughts down on paper. These are the key beliefs that are holding you back from success.
4. Take the time to look at these negative beliefs and decide whether they are really true for you. Explore other ways to look at yourself and your life that feel more positive and empowering and write down these new beliefs.
To clarify what I mean, let me give you an example. Let’s say you find that you have this negative thought: I never succeed at anything. You would now want to explore examples of how this is not true. Remind yourself of times when you did succeed in small or large ways. Next, come up with a new belief that feels good to you. Here’s an example:
There are other times that I have succeeded at goals I set out to achieve. All I need to do is stay focused on my goal and not give up. If I do that, I am sure to eventually succeed.
It does take some focused effort to get into the habit of recognizing your negative thoughts and changing them to more empowering, positive beliefs. However, you will be richly rewarded for your efforts. And if you do not, those underlying negative thoughts will continue to keep you from the success you desire.
Once you get into the habit of recognizing and changing your negative habits of thinking, you will find yourself becoming more confident and sure of yourself and your ability to succeed. You will be able to fully embrace the ideas and opportunities that will move you towards your goal. I hope you can see by now that developing positive habits of thinking really is the key to your success.
A Faster and Easier Way to Develop Successful Thoughts
Although challenging these negative thoughts and replacing them with more positive, empowering ones can be very powerful, it does take some effort. I have found that there is an even easier way to release these negative beliefs and replace them with positive, empowering beliefs. It is called Emotional Freedom Techniques, or EFT. It is a bit unconventional, but it works more rapidly and permanently than anything else I’ve ever seen.
One of the advantages of EFT is that you can use it to let go of negative beliefs even if you don’t know what they are. You simply focus on the negative emotion you are experiencing and release that. As you do, your negative beliefs are cleared as well. It is quick, thorough, and simple to do. And it is very effective.
As you may already know, I have developed a self-help program which uses EFT to release the negative beliefs that are interfering with your success. It then replaces the negative beliefs with positive, empowering beliefs will support you in your success.
You can try out a free EFT recording I have created that will help you change your negative thoughts on the homepage of my website: CreatingConfidenceandSuccess.com. You can also sign up for my free Quick Start Guide to EFT for Confidence there and learn more about my program that shows you everything you need to know about how to succeed in life from the inside out.